First, I assured her that her daughter will get hurt. Even more important than trying to avoid pain is helping our sons and daughters and ourselves to know that they are strong, capable, and powerful — and that they can overcome hurt. Resiliency, self-respect, self-esteem, confidence, perseverance, and wisdom are the things to focus on instilling in your children, as these things will both help them to avoid pain and to recover from it quickly. We are misled in our society to think there is only one person out there for us, only one soul mate — only one great love.
As you begin to explore a variety of relationships in your teens, try to listen to your inner voice, instead of the loud voices of your circle of friends. It can be hard to tone down the pressure teens feel in today's world, so before you make any decisions about who to date or how to behave, quiet down those outside voices. Take a silent walk alone or write in a journal. Your inner voice will know the right choices for you; just take the time to listen. Know Yourself With all the conflicting messages in teens' lives, it can be hard to know what they want when it comes to dating and relationships.